# 52 – Better Person Challenge July 13

# 52 – Better Person Challenge July 13

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First – yay I’m back!!!

Sorry for the little break and I haven’t disappeared or stopped blogging.  With the kids school ending, camp starting, my own school work….my brain has been a little fried to sit down and put some words together that somewhat make sense.

So here I go….

My “Better Person Challenge” of the week is to not let fear get in my way.

I have to say I have grown the past few years and punched fear in the face a few times since my husband passed away, but it is always something I am working at.

I started a new class in school yesterday and just by reading the syllabus, my brain started smoking and my initial reaction was to run.  “I cannot get through this class, it looks way too hard!”  I literally had to talk to talk myself down and say “Listen, it’s going to be hard, but you have to finish school!  You have dealt with harder things in life….stop whining and get through these five f*ing weeks!”

I am also working on a project that could potentially be a little side hustle and first thought “Can I actually do this?  Do I have the personality?  The motivation?  The skills?”  I have had some pushback from people saying “How can you possibly add more things to your plate?”  I have a picture hanging above my desk with the saying, “She’s a dreamer, A doer, A thinker.  She sees possibility everywhere”.  Enough said!

And these two examples are just this past week and month…fear can be everywhere…it’s how you face it that makes a difference.

So don’t back down, try something different and face an issue head on that you would normally back down from because you were scared you would fail!  You got this!

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Kristen

#47 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 8

#47 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 8

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5 Ways to Make Yourself Feel Better

I don’t know about you guys, but if I do something I really enjoy, It puts me in a good mood and which then reflects in my attitude towards others.  Doesn’t it make you feel good when you are walking and pass a complete stranger and they say hello just as friendly as if they knew you.  I want to be a “better me” so I can be better to others.

So…I sat thinking…what makes me happy or what do I really enjoy.  These may seem like little things, but for me it can definitely make or break my day.

  1. Drink coffee out of my favorite mug.

There’s just something about a cute mug that makes me happy!  I have way too many, but can never seem to pass one up at a store.  But making that fresh cup of coffee in the oh so cute mug can even make it taste better!

  1. Wear comfortable underware.

Maybe I’m just getting old, but seriously.  Sitting at my desk all day with a wedgie or a wire poking me in the side…makes me kinda grumpy.  Comfort is the name of my game!

  1. Take a break from your electronics.

I know, I know….it is seriously a habit at this point to constantly check my phone.  But you all have to admit…it’s kind of nice to be unconnected even just for a little while.

  1. Netflix and….Burrito (might be my new phrase…check it out)

Go to bed early to snuggle and watch your series addictions.  This is fun for me because I NEVER have control of the remote in my house.  Nickelodeon 24/7…help!

  1. Make your desk feel….home-y.

If you are going to be sitting at work more than you are at home, why not make it fun and inviting.  I have pictures, plants, cute pens and notebooks….okay maybe I am channeling my inner teenage self, but I don’t care….makes me happy!  Even my desk at home…it’s my favorite place to sit.  Which this is totally what I need to get school work done, etc.

 

So take a moment to think about the little things that will improve your mood.  You never know what another person is going through and being happy and friendly could possibly rub off on someone else today and make a difference.

#BetterPersonChallenge

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Kristen

# 43 – #BetterPersonChallenge – Be Kind to Yourself

# 43 – #BetterPersonChallenge – Be Kind to Yourself

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Be Kind to Yourself

When is the last time you penciled in on your To-Do list, time for something that gives you pleasure?  A hot bath, reading, mani/pedi….I know what you are thinking already….I don’t have time for this, I have 10 million other things I have to get done first.

I said the same thing…so this is my challenge for this week.

For me, it’s difficult to find those 5 or 10 minutes to sneak away because I have my boys 24/7.  I also value my sleep (when I can sleep), so staying up after they go to bed is not always an option.

It might even just be the 40-minute drive to work that I listen to my favorite music or catch up on my podcasts.

I know at times I may seem down on myself…hey we all have our days.  But I’ve been reading a lot or listening to podcasts on how to better yourself and it always comes back to how you are treating yourself.

My goal is to pencil something into my day that makes me happy.  I am hoping this will lift my spirits and allow me to take on the day more on a positive note rather than a negative one.

The first thing I have done is sign up for Shine Text (which I heard about reading another blog Well and Good – this was also a good read!) Every morning they will send you daily tips for self-fulfillment.  I am on Day One, so I will let you know how I like it by the end of the week.  But as I see it, it’s always nice to get a motivational text first thing in the morning to start your day right.

What have you penciled into your day?

#BetterPersonChallenge

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Kristen

 

# 33 – #BetterPersonChallenge & A Giveaway!

# 33 – #BetterPersonChallenge & A Giveaway!

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This weeks Challenge to be a #BetterPerson is to Be Forgiving – Let Things Go.

I have decided it takes a whole lot more energy being mad/annoyed/aggravated (you get it) about something then it does to forgive and let things go.

If something bothers me, I usually talk to a friend and get it all out and then it’s like I can breathe and it’s over…for the most part!  Here are some things to remember about what it means to forgive.

  • Forgiving doesn’t mean you’re excusing the other  person’s actions.
  • Forgiving doesn’t mean you should forget.
  • Forgiving is finding a way to live in a state of resolution.
  • Forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not the other person.
  • You cannot change the past, so don’t live in it.
  • Smile and let it go.  It takes some practice, but it helps!

Hopefully this will be of some help to anyone that is dealing with a difficult situation.  Even though I know every situation is different, sometimes thinking this way can help for your own well-being.

Now onto the Surprise!!!

I decided since I am so close to 200 followers, it was time for a giveaway!  You may enter this giveaway at a Rafflecopter giveaway (click the link).  You could win a $25 gift card to Amazon!!!

All you need to do is 1) Like my Blog Page 2) Like my Facebook Page and 3) Tweet.  You will then be entered into the raffle to win a $25 Amazon Gift Card!

The raffle will begin May 11 – May 18 2016!  This contest is currently only offered to the USA and Canada.  I will not forget my International friends….you will be coming up soon!

Thank you all for your awesome feedback and support since I started this blog!  I wish you good luck!

~ K

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# 23 – Are you Happy?

# 23 – Are you Happy?

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Can you not be happy without feeling sad?

I was thinking about this the other day…okay maybe a lot lately.  Many people are not sad if you ask them how they are, but are they actually “happy”?

I am in somewhat of a rut.  Things are going fine in general, but I can’t help to think “there’s got to be a better way”.  I know I am not alone in this feeling either.  I have had discussions with multiple friends about this topic, yet we never really get to an answer.  It’s usually a heavy sigh and off to work we go.

What do you feel deep down in your soul that would make you the happiest?  Yes, we all need money and benefits….believe me this is my biggest problem.  I love my job…that’s not my complaint.  I just feel like there is something missing…a passion, I guess you could say.

In a perfect world…what the heck would I want to do, accomplish, excel in??  It’s nothing even something that I would hope where I would make millions and quit my job (but if that happened…score!).  Something on the side that fulfills something I feel like I am missing to complete my happiness.

Here’s a whole different topic to make your minds swirl….  Do I feel an emptiness due to the loss of my husband?  There’s a piece of my heart that will forever be broken.  But marriage is something I am definitely not looking for.  This could be a whole different blog topic, but I often wonder lately “what is the point”.

I’m not against dating, but why bother going through the whole act of marriage?  I don’t regret marrying my husband, but would i want to go through it all again with someone new???

As I said, this is a whole different topic, but I’m throwing it out there.  It’s been something I’ve been noticing more and more articles about and feel like I’m leaning more towards this feeling of not needing that piece of paper.

But as for now, from one of my favorite meme’s I’ve been single for a while and I have to say it’s going very well.  Like…It’s working out.  I think I’m the one”.

So I will continue to try to find that “passion” and figure out what I feel like I’m missing.  It will come to me one day as a light bulb moment I’m sure!

~ K

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# 22 – Fighting the Fog & Wednesday Challenge!

# 22 – Fighting the Fog & Wednesday Challenge!

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I’ve been having those days lately.  Not really sure I can pinpoint it, but it’s like there is a heavy fog that just sits in the air all morning.  I’m trying to walk through the fog to see where I am going…but it’s always just blurry.

“They” say our bodies change every 7-10 years.  A little bit of googling determines this may not be completely true….but let’s say it is, just for fun.  I can definitely say I am a different person than I was 7 years ago.  Not only by the standards of what “they” say in that your cells change, but probably in every way.

Seven years ago, I was 30.  I was having a hard time leaving my 20’s, I was married for 5 years, about to have my second son…looking back I feel like it was a lot for a 30 year old.  Little did I know, my entire life would take a dramatic turn almost 2 years later.  I was always an independent person…couldn’t wait to grow up (what was the rush?? I could never tell you), get married, have children….and you know “have the perfect life”.

“The perfect life” did not happen, marriage is not like how it is in the movies, and definitely didn’t imagine being a widow at 32 with two kids.  Well you know what…my life was written this way for a reason.  I haven’t figured it out yet, not even a little, but one day I may have an answer.

So let’s get out of the fog together…

I decided to make a Challenge for myself for becoming a better person and I will announce it every Wednesday what steps I am taking.  Not saying we are horrible people, but maybe if we are ever down on ourselves or I usually say there is always room for improvement, perhaps these “challenges” will assist our well-being, moods, and happiness.

Please join along and share your experiences as well.  P.S.  You may want to check out my Instagram as well….just sayin’!

Wednesday Challenge # 1:  Give myself a Compliment every morning.

Start off the day with positivity instead of saying how the circles under my eyes are getting darker and darker. Pick anything….”My eyebrows are on fleek!”  I know…I totally used a 20’s something word as a 30’s something person….but I love to do that…the looks I get are great!  My friends get it! LOL

Go ahead and try it…I dare you!  How have you complimented yourself today?

Let’s get out of the fog!

~ K

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# 10 I am Thankful For…

# 10 I am Thankful For…

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I figured I would switch things up a bit from feeling a bit down lately.  I decided to make a list of what I am thankful for and simply what makes me happy.  I would love to hear from you as well!

P.S.  I am serious with all of these things…but I hope you can see the humor in some of them!

  1. My boys
  2. Family
  3. Fabulous In-Laws
  4. Friends
  5. Coffee
  6. Warm Showers
  7. Comfortable Bed (even though I share it with 2 little nuggets)
  8. Owning my Home
  9. Being able to provide for my boys
  10. Having a great job
  11. Old pictures/videos
  12. Being able to keep it together when times get tough
  13. Netflix
  14. YouTube (I can fix anything with YouTube)
  15. Acrylic (I will be able to know who reads this with this comment…lol)
  16. Facebook – I was able to connect with so many friends from when I was younger that I probably would have never seen again.
  17. Podcasts
  18. Quiet Time
  19. My Kindle
  20. Weekends with no plans
  21. Sephora
  22. My Fuzzy Slippers
  23. Living in the part of the country that experiences all 4 seasons
  24. Ability to go back to school (even though it has taken about 20 years)
  25. Amazing Teachers for my Kids
  26. Organization
  27. My phone – yes I’m one of those!
  28. Amazon Prime

Your Turn!

~ K