#50 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 15

#50 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 15

Trust

Trust until you have a reason not to.

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.  I would like to break this down because so often we have walls, or there is “hear say”, or we have been burned so many times before.  It’s time to take a look at what the meaning of trust truly means to us and how it can make us hold less grudges and live a happy life if we just look at the world a little differently.

I hold trust way up high.  If I trust you with my story, then you have gained a ticket through my wall (yes, I have seemed to build some over the past few years myself).  So all of these tasks, I am working at along with you!

Reliability – How many times do you need to be let down before you finally decide that “you know what, this person cannot be trusted with this task”.  It doesn’t mean you cannot be friends or have to have a heated argument…it’s the exact opposite really!  Maybe what you are trying to depend on them for, is not something they are an expert in, or does not have as high of an importance as you have it.  Look to someone else who has the skills to put your trust in a reliable person.

Truth – This is a hard one for me.  What I want to say on paper is, “Why would this person lie to you?  Is there an underlying reason they are afraid to talk to you truthfully?”  But I have been burned and know what it feels like to have your trust broken.  So this too is on my list to at least  try to get better at understanding why truth is not being told.  It is also important to not get walked all over because YOU are trying to do the right thing and have a little thread of faith that this person is trustworthy, yet your experiences are telling you otherwise.

Ability – This is a good one.  I will use my children as an example.  They have completely different personalities.  I have learned to work best with them, find their strengths and abilities and focus on that.  One likes to clean and work on projects, the other has a great imagination and loves to create.  Sometimes you have to do this in the real adult world as well.  Maybe there is a task you are asking of someone and they are not doing it correctly and you are starting to lose trust that they will not get the task done timely and correctly.  Step back and maybe it’s just their skill set.  What are their strengths and go from there.

Strength – This is for you.  What I have discussed above – reliability, truth, and ability are all things you need to look inside of people before automatically not trusting them.  So don’t be so quick to judge because your “neighbor said so”.  If you get through these steps, and red flags are popping up everywhere, then maybe you need to decide, “Is this person really trustworthy?”  But also look inside yourself and think about your own strengths and abilities when interacting with other people.  This can make you understand more and be more open and TRUSTING before jumping the gun.

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Kristen

#47 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 8

#47 – #BetterPersonChallenge June 8

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5 Ways to Make Yourself Feel Better

I don’t know about you guys, but if I do something I really enjoy, It puts me in a good mood and which then reflects in my attitude towards others.  Doesn’t it make you feel good when you are walking and pass a complete stranger and they say hello just as friendly as if they knew you.  I want to be a “better me” so I can be better to others.

So…I sat thinking…what makes me happy or what do I really enjoy.  These may seem like little things, but for me it can definitely make or break my day.

  1. Drink coffee out of my favorite mug.

There’s just something about a cute mug that makes me happy!  I have way too many, but can never seem to pass one up at a store.  But making that fresh cup of coffee in the oh so cute mug can even make it taste better!

  1. Wear comfortable underware.

Maybe I’m just getting old, but seriously.  Sitting at my desk all day with a wedgie or a wire poking me in the side…makes me kinda grumpy.  Comfort is the name of my game!

  1. Take a break from your electronics.

I know, I know….it is seriously a habit at this point to constantly check my phone.  But you all have to admit…it’s kind of nice to be unconnected even just for a little while.

  1. Netflix and….Burrito (might be my new phrase…check it out)

Go to bed early to snuggle and watch your series addictions.  This is fun for me because I NEVER have control of the remote in my house.  Nickelodeon 24/7…help!

  1. Make your desk feel….home-y.

If you are going to be sitting at work more than you are at home, why not make it fun and inviting.  I have pictures, plants, cute pens and notebooks….okay maybe I am channeling my inner teenage self, but I don’t care….makes me happy!  Even my desk at home…it’s my favorite place to sit.  Which this is totally what I need to get school work done, etc.

 

So take a moment to think about the little things that will improve your mood.  You never know what another person is going through and being happy and friendly could possibly rub off on someone else today and make a difference.

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Kristen

# 45 – #WeekendCoffeeShare June 5

# 45 – #WeekendCoffeeShare June 5

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If we were having coffee…

I would give you one of my large 16oz coffee cups and tell you to get comfortable on my couch.  I feel like this has been a whirlwind week.  I probably say this every week, but really, I mean…it’s June for goodness sake!

One of my favorite things to do (besides drink coffee) is to drink coffee with one of my friends and just being able to relax, shoot the shit, and have no where I have to be…..ahhh sounds delightful doesn’t it??!!

One super exciting thing that happened yesterday is that I got to watch my brother-in-law propose to his girlfriend!  It was a lot of fun knowing a little secret and watching it unfold!  Congrats to this amazing couple…very happy for them and hope for nothing but the best in their future!

Other than that exciting news, this week was a flash.  I did not follow my usual laundry schedule, or any type of schedule for that matter.  That makes me a little crazy…I admit it.  I need my lists and to be able to cross things off to feel accomplished.  I have issues…I know.

So today, the first thing on my agenda, after my coffee of course, is to make a list of everything I would like to accomplish for today to get ready for work tomorrow.  I am already shuttering at the thought of Monday morning….ugh!

Enjoy your day, make your to do lists and be amazing!

This #WeekendCoffeeShare was also brought to you by Part-Time Monster.

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Kristen

# 43 – #BetterPersonChallenge – Be Kind to Yourself

# 43 – #BetterPersonChallenge – Be Kind to Yourself

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Be Kind to Yourself

When is the last time you penciled in on your To-Do list, time for something that gives you pleasure?  A hot bath, reading, mani/pedi….I know what you are thinking already….I don’t have time for this, I have 10 million other things I have to get done first.

I said the same thing…so this is my challenge for this week.

For me, it’s difficult to find those 5 or 10 minutes to sneak away because I have my boys 24/7.  I also value my sleep (when I can sleep), so staying up after they go to bed is not always an option.

It might even just be the 40-minute drive to work that I listen to my favorite music or catch up on my podcasts.

I know at times I may seem down on myself…hey we all have our days.  But I’ve been reading a lot or listening to podcasts on how to better yourself and it always comes back to how you are treating yourself.

My goal is to pencil something into my day that makes me happy.  I am hoping this will lift my spirits and allow me to take on the day more on a positive note rather than a negative one.

The first thing I have done is sign up for Shine Text (which I heard about reading another blog Well and Good – this was also a good read!) Every morning they will send you daily tips for self-fulfillment.  I am on Day One, so I will let you know how I like it by the end of the week.  But as I see it, it’s always nice to get a motivational text first thing in the morning to start your day right.

What have you penciled into your day?

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Kristen

 

# 39 – #BetterPersonChallenge May 25

# 39 – #BetterPersonChallenge May 25

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Before you go to Sleep, Think of the Best Thing that Day for 5 Minutes. 

Instead of worrying about all the things that went wrong today or everything you need to do tomorrow, clear your mind and think about what was the best thing that happened today.

  • We got out of the house with no meltdowns.
  • I got a good parking spot at work
  • My child made me a beautiful picture at school today
  • I got a hug for no reason from my child
  • I lost a pound
  • I had a good laugh with a friend today
  • Nobody spilled anything at dinner
  • I had a really great conversation with my son/daughter/wife/husband
  • I had enough points for a free coffee

These are just a few example of things that could be major or they can be as minor as you want.  Did it make you happy, did you smile…..think positive before going to bed.  Try to wipe the stress away by thinking of all the good things that may have happened today.

See if it makes a difference in how you wake up the next morning.

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Kristen

# 36 – #BetterPersonChallenge May 18

# 36 – #BetterPersonChallenge May 18

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This Wednesday’s #BetterPersonChallenge is to Do Something for the First Time!

When I say this, I mean move out of your comfort zone.

After my husband passed away, I had to start doing things alone.  For example, go to a wedding, fly on an airplane, etc.  It made me realize how much I relied on other people to help me do things.  Even if I think back to high school, I was always with a friend…god forbid you do anything by yourself at that time.

When I took that first drive to the airport and flew by myself, I felt a great sense of pride!  “I can do this!”  Even though it took me until my 30’s until I realized that doing things by myself is okay, in fact, it’s good for you.

I was recently talking with a friend about vacations and she looked at me like I was crazy because I never took a vacation by myself.  She has gone all over the world, many times, all alone and she LOVED it.  It wasn’t because she didn’t have anyone to go with, she likes to do things on her own.

When I took my most recent trip for work, as I was getting off the plane I was thinking, a vacation by myself is sounding more and more like a good idea.  It would totally be out of my comfort zone, but in the end, I think it would be so nice to decompress.  When I am alone, at first I can’t sit still even though I am drop dead tired.  It takes me a day or so to get into “slow-mo” mode….and that sounds so nice right now!

So you definitely don’t need to do something like traveling to do something for the first time that will move you out of your comfort zone.  It could even be as easy as going to the movies by yourself (I have yet to do that either).

Or now that I think about it….i hope it’s not just me living a sheltered life!!

This will be our challenge together!  Please share what are some things you enjoy doing on your own or that you have done that has taken you out of your comfort zone.

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~ K

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